The Psychology of Winning

Denis Waitly

Quality 1: Positive Self-Expectancy

"Life is a fulfilling prophecy. True winners go into every event expecting to win."

The definition of self expectancy is related to the word self esteem which means to believe in yourself and having a very high level of confidence. Without this level of confidence in yourself you will not be able to accomplish anything you would like to accomplish because you won't have the motivation to accomplish your goals in the future. There are many ways your self expectancy level can be changed by others but most importantly yourself. Others are able to bring your confidence down by calling you names and making you feel insecure. You can bring down your confidence by listening to what people say around you. Other can bring up your confidence level by encouraging you and motivating you in different ways. However, you can bring up your confidence level by just believing in yourself and telling yourself that you can do anything.

Quality 2:Positive Self-Motivation

"True winners dig deep and find motivation inside themselves to get through that tough task or to learn a new skill."

Motivation is the key to accomplishing your goals. Without motivation people won't be able to accomplish what they want in life. Motivation gets people through the hard times in life. The definition of motivation is the reason or reasons people do something. Motivation can come in different forms around you whether you are motivated by someone else or a event that happened in your life. 

Quality 3:Positive Self Image

"True winners are confident and view themselves as competent, valuable human beings."

Quality 4: Positive Self Direction

"You gotta have direction if you are going to go anywhere. The true winners know where they are going. Their sense of direction comes from the self and not from outside influences like parents or friends."

In order to know what you want to be in life you need to have self direction and control who and what you want to become in the future. Without self direction there would be no clue as to where you would go. The only person that will be hurt and confused is yourself. Once you lose self motivation you lose yourself and who you are as a person. Everyone in their lives has to able to have the discipline to tell themselves where to go and for what reason it is the better choice to go one way than to go through the others. 

Quality 5: Positive Self-Control 

Total winners can sacrifice immediate pleasure for a gain in the future. Delayed gratification is of immense value in reaching your goal. 

Quality 6: Positive Self Discipline

You have to discipline yourself or else someone else will discipline you into doing what they want you to do. Total winners have the power to discipline and take control of their lives. 

Quality 7: Positive Self Esteem 

Your mood and outlook on life affect the way you see the world and how you interact in it. Total winners are positive, powerful people who make people feel good and provide a good vibe to those around him/her.

Everyone is influenced by others and their self esteem. Their self esteem also affects the persons self esteem. People who have a high self esteem can accomplish anything with high confidence. When somebody has high confidence they tend to do things that they might not ever do in their lives without confidence. When somebody has a lot of self esteem it might change them as a person in a negative way. That person can become too confident and change their personality negatively and others will probably begin to dislike the person. People who get too confident begin to develop arrogance which will make people ignore and dislike them.

Quality 8: Positive Self-Dimension

Total winners like in the present. They know that now all there is. They do not get caught up in the past or worry about the future. They simply handle the business that they can handle which is the stuff going on today, now. 

Quality 9:Positive Self Awareness

Total winners are aware of their power. They understand that they can be anything with enough effort and determination. 

Self awareness is important because in order to get by in life you need to be aware with what is going around you and be aware of what is happening and what happened and what could happen in the future. Once you have achieved self awareness you have achieved being able to know what you can do to affect other people or things around you using your self awareness skill. Once you are self aware you know who you are and what your character is and from there you can improve and exceed in becoming a very good person. 

Quality 10: Positive Action

Total winners take positive action in their business and with their friends and family. They are uplifting and motivating individuals who inspire the best from themselves and other people in the world.